With the birth of my first kid at the end of February, I’ve been deep in thought about defining my internal beliefs. I’ve thought about them in the past, and I have some of them written down (somewhere… I know they’re somewhere, maybe Evernote?). Despite that, I haven’t really defined them in a codified sense.
I want to bring those ideas knocking around in my head to the front of my mind where I can name them. I think it is important to know how I want my interactions with others to look like in order to pass on the virtues I believe are important. How could I expect my daughter to follow if I don’t know where I stand in the first place?
For example, I avoid the words “try” and “don’t”, and I believe that stories differentiate success from failure in many arenas. I suspect that many of these ideas aren’t held by the majority, and many of these would spark a lively debate over Thanksgiving dinner if I’m not careful.
For the sake of transparency, here are my belief statements (subject to change without written notice).
- I believe that all people have the capability to reach the highest echelon of any skill they wish to master given the proper focus and mindful dedication to their education.
- I believe that all emotions are the responsibility of their holder, and a person should examine each emotion for its root before allowing that emotion to be expressed.
- I believe that no action should be purely motivated by anger. Even in situations that deserve outrage, a sense of justice will lead to a better outcome than pure anger.
- I believe that most failures are rooted in poor communication and can be avoided or minimized by practicing active listening, non-violent communication, and frequent communication.
- I believe that gossip and talking negatively about anyone should be eliminated from my life. No good ever comes of speaking ill of customers, clients, friends, family, etc.
- I believe that “under-promise and over-deliver” is a practice to be avoided at all costs. It is deceitful. Over-promising and over-delivering is desirable and possible given the right effort and focus.
- I believe that the only black and white that exists is whether it is okay to take harm or oppress others.
- I believe that generalizations cause more harm than good.
- I believe that honesty, empathy, and right action are the most important virtues to positively impacting the world.